Philosophy For Speakers, Entertainers & Performers ~
Tomorrow night my longtime friend, and extremely successful performer, will sell out a venue in SLC, UT, where I dreamt of performing with my name on the marquee when my career began almost 20 years ago.
I won’t be there, although I support his career fully and always have, always will. In fact, I haven’t missed one of his annual appearances in town in over a decade.
I will instead be with my family on a date we blocked off on the calendar many months ago, to be together during one of my only open days during my busiest month of the year, at the knockoff of Disneyland in Utah, called Lagoon, before it closes for the season.
Why would I choose my family time and Lagoon date over seeing my friend at his dream gig?
A few reasons:
- Certain dates are sacred with family. We must choose wisely or every date will be swallowed up in work, opportunity, support of peers, and life itself.
- Admittedly, for me professionally, I am so thrilled for my friend I can hardly see straight, and also I feel a sting of what could have been with my career.
- Although we share many of the same beliefs in careers, performing, and religion, we have made personal choices along the way that have given us different paths to follow.
My friend – what you focus on and work toward, if you do it smart enough and hard enough, will eventually come to pass.
If your goals and dreams are to have your name in lights, on TV, money in the bank, and become famous, then if you play your cards right, and are talented and surround yourself with the right management, you will succeed.
If your goals are to make enough to sustain a career but not become necessarily wealthy, while also setting aside success as determined by the world, and go find someone to marry, have a family with, and live that lifestyle, then you have made a choice and will most likely succeed in that.
Neither one is “the right choice”, it’s just a matter of what you feel is most important to you.
Can you do both? Sure, some have, but it’s extremely rare, way more rare than making it professionally to the top of the world in the first place. Most have chosen one or the other.
When I have started to fall into that ego trap of, “Oh, what could have been! Had I just focused more, worked harder, stayed the course, been on the road more, kept pushing in entertainment, never stepped into speaking and training others, etc….” and all of that inner talk takes over, then I become truly miserable because I see what my entertainer friends have accomplished and I hate myself.
Yet when I hear my peers, my successful and marquee name friends, complaining they don’t have a family to come home to at night, no kids soccer games, no white picket fence, living in hotels and cruise ships, but their name is in lights, they chose that life, too.
All I’m really asking is: What happens if you really get what you want?
For me, and for my friend, we wouldn’t trade what we’ve currently got for ANYTHING. We intentionally went down that road.
So own it!
And stop crying about what might have been.
If it’s not headed in the direction you thought it could, should or would, then trade it. Trade for what you believe it could be. But remember – that’s a life-altering choice! You’ve got to choose wisely my friend!
And when someone achieves greatness in their field, celebrate them.
But also celebrate you, because you’ve arrived at a place that you literally orchestrated and wanted and created.
And that means you, too, are a success, if not in the eyes of the world, you are in the eyes of those who love you.
And eat a churro while you’re with your family, with those kids at Lagoon, and be happy for everyone around you.
But be happy for yourself.
Jason Hewlett, CSP (Certified Speaking Professional), CPAE Speaker Hall of Fame, is a Keynote Speaker for the largest corporate events in the world. His primary message, The Promise, is essential for Leadership, Management, Sales, Marketing, Direct-Sales Companies, and is a combination of engagement and entertainment meets inspiration. Jason has even received standing ovations from IT guys. He has been acknowledged as life-changing by Conference Attendees, C-Level Executives and Hollywood Elite. jasonhewlett.com
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